Emotions

Some of us have learned how dangerous emotions can be, if you let them control you.

Emotions could put you to shame but even more disturbing, get you in serious trouble...

You could trip over yourself.

You could put up a jealous fit.

You could throw angry and really hurtful words you would never have thought you could utter, even to the one(s) you love, and as we know, you can never take them back.

You could pour out what you think are love declarations "in the heat of the moment" only to find out  moments later that those feelings weren't valid... Oops!

You could make promises you'd regret 30 minutes after you declare them.

You could threaten to act a certain way and fail and worsen the situation you were trying to fix in the first place.

But all of these don't seem so bad right, because you think you can apologize and life goes on as normal. Well, maybe in some cases ( though rare I'd guess).

You see, it starts with the little things and if you don't get a grip of yourself early enough, if you don't realize how important it is to control emotions, fragile, fleeting feelings that they are,

you could lose yourself. You could get yourself killed or kill someone, yes, it can get that far.

And sometimes in a moment of deep regret, commit suicide too. This isn't anything new.

Let's do better, we should know better than to blame bad behavior on emotions; " I was angry", " I was upset", " I was sad" etc. We all feel these things and we have seen that if left unchecked, they could get really bad. Anger management issues should be confronted as soon as noticed, all emotional issues should be stated as what they are and handled accordingly.

Learn to control yourself, life can switch up on you in less than a minute.

Think through the things you say and do.

Be responsible.

Love and light, always 💙.

My Love Story

Happy Easter! How is everyone doing? Trust you're making good use of the long weekend. I was thinking about this undeserving love of mine that I (so) comfortably swim in and I thought I should share my truest and most potent love story with you guys.  

Life in shades of grey...

Hi everyone. How is your end of the world? There has been so much negativity on the news lately and I've just been thinking how much more we all need to be accepting of people and our differences.
In the past, I've wondered if it's okay that I like the things I like and care about people the way I do and don't care about certain things the way people do.

I've wondered if not agreeing with the things the world, society, church, school, family and friends have set as rules makes me unfit to be "one of them" but then I have never really been able to find any group worthy enough to make me squeeze so much to make a perfect fit in their "sacred worlds". Don't get me wrong, I love peace beyond anything in this world and I am a team player, never the one to go out of my way to rebel but I'm also not one to accept everything I'm served. I work and walk with my heart, my faith and my mind and I ask a lot of questions, it could get annoying. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, I basically do what works for me, what I'm convinced within to be right (of course sometimes I do wrong), as I try to let others do what works for them.

Happy International Women's Day!

Hi everyone. Happy International Women's Day to my fellow AMAZONS! 

It's our day, yipee! 

To be honest, this is the first year I've been this excited about our day. I've always been a woman's woman but I never had that special excitement for our day but this year is different. Could it be that I'm embracing my (almost) old age? It's still almost please, for the next 10 years at least 😋. 

Power

To conquer anything or anyone, to be able to achieve something great, to do anything worth doing at all, you've got to first believe that you can.

Many of us seek self control in various areas of life; in abstaining from food as part of your diet plans or during a fasting period, or in taking time off social media for personal reasons, or taming your tongue to speak only kind words, or to stay dedicated to your workout routine, anything. To be able to control yourself and stay true to your plan, you have to train your mind to believe that you'll survive without that thing. Train your mind to believe you can do what you want to do and achieve your desired results regardless of the painful discipline you may need to endure.

It all starts in the mind.

To tame your flesh, you'll have to first train your mind. The flesh usually carries out actions the mind has thought to be desirable. 

Start the real battle, control your mind, watch what you let in for it slowly becomes a part of you. 

The Word of God Gives Peace!

Hi guys, how are we? How is the whole Val’s aftermath? I hope you all had fun and were genuinely happy because really, that’s all that matters and I hope that you’re not saving up all your love for next year again because love is an every second event my darlings. Anyway, speaking on love, today I’d like to talk about the greatest of all; God’s love and specifically His Word.

Over the years, I’ve struggled through dark times and it seems to get more intense as I grow older. You realize you’re grown up and you’re practically accountable for yourself and all your actions. There’s no adult to call on or to blame because you’re supposedly adult enough to handle whatever the situation is. People expect you to know it all and when you fail, you’re scolded and judged by the world, including those who know you and those who don’t. Yes, it sucks but it is life and we can’t control what people think nor can we tell them how to react to things. However, we can talk to one who understands and when we can’t find the words to spill out our hurt, we can simply listen to His pure love as it heals our broken hearts.

Let's Talk About Love

Sooo, in the spirit of Valentine’s Day, let’s talk about love. I mean the pure kind, the kind that we should have for one another, not the epileptic kind which seems to have polluted the world today.

I always say, love is hard work! Don’t get me wrong, love is sweet, amazing and the best gift ever. 

However, when love is tested, it feels like a huge rock placed on your chest, or is that only me? No? Anyone? I know I have partners in this feeling. Now, love is not the enemy here, as people like to bitterly and I must admit poetically write about. Love in itself is amazing but the instruments of love; you and I, are humans bound to make mistakes in life and sometimes these mistakes cause pain to our loved ones. Many times, we really do not mean to but alas, it happens. 

I’m not about to go through the painful details of what we do with love or shall I say the consequences of love. I’m only here as a reality check for us all, to remind us of the ups and downs of human relationships and to reassure us that Love is eternal and Love has got us and I’ll summarize them with a few of my favorite love quotes below: 

My God & Me

Hi guys! How are y'all doing? 

I mentioned a few new changes to the blog. Yes, the look and now, a new very important section; My God and me. 

I’ve been meaning to add this section for quite a while now but for some unknown reason(s), I’ve delayed for way too long. I’m here now and glad to be alive to do this so hey, welcome to my very imperfect journey as a Christian. 

This section will cover my walk with God; I’ll be sharing things I learn, testimonies of how God has saved me and keeps saving me and others, hope in this dark world we live in, struggles, etc.  I hope you stick around and most importantly, I hope somewhere, somehow, the words here would save someone. 

Always and forever, love and light to you and yours.

Happy New Year!!!

I know it's kinda late but still... Happy New Year Everyone!!! 

It's been forever! How was your 2017? I don't know about you, but I'm super excited about 2018. Okay, okay, a little bit of fear and a truckload of excitement. I can't wait to see how the year goes. I'm very optimistic and I'm trying to put in all I can to make sure it goes the way I want it to and I advise you do same. No more, laying around wishing for good things, we're getting our asses off the couch and getting what we hope and pray for.

As you can see, I switched up the blog look, tell me you like it😊. There will be a few more changes soon. I just came to drop some love and wish you a wonderful year ahead. May this year be your best year yet!

Always and forever, lots of love💝!

The Great Nigerian Jollof Rice

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Hi guys, how are y'all doing? I hope way better than the last time we spoke.

I don't know about you but I have missed talking about food and sharing delicious recipes, so today we're going to be sharing from our favorite food blogger, one of Nigeria's favorite dishes - Jollof Rice! Yeesss! Have all your jollof rice attempts turned out sad? Get in here, learn a trick or two today. I am proud to say, I've been told I'm a badass at this and I still learned a few more tricks in the last year from following and paying attention to my hardworking and blessed Nigerian cooks on Instagram. Learning new recipes is one of my favorite things to do, even though I'd rather someone else goes through the stress of making all the ingredients available. Now, buckle up, let's take your Jollof rice game to another level.

 

Loving an Insecure Person

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Hey guys! How’s it going at your end? Trust that you’re doing the best you can. Hang in there, it’ll all be great in the end.

I had planned a different topic to share with you today but this just popped into my head for some reason, and I really don’t know what brought it up. As I like to go with my heart sometimes, let’s talk about this then, shall we?

Did You Know About Diastasis Recti?

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Hey guys, how are we all doing? I hope your energy is still very high and you're channeling it into the right things, people and places.

Today, we'll be talking about a health issue I recently learned about. I'm still wowed at the fact that I'm just learning about it. I mean, this is something I feel I should have known especially as it affects pregnant women a lot. Pregnant women/pregnancy is "my thing". At some point in my life, I wanted to be a gynecologist, that didn't work out, thankfully, but still, I like to know all I can about it and I keep learning from the blessed ones around me. To think that no doctor has mentioned this to any of my close mothers, (and please note that I have a lot of babies so many mothers, new and old and relatively old) is quite disappointing. Let's not dwell on that too much, let's go straight into the education for the day, shall we? Let's learn about DIASTASIS RECTI.

Happy 2017 folks!

Happy 2017 my darlings! May you be truly blessed with happiness that lasts all year round and beyond! How are your vibes for the year, feeling anything yet? Many as always have been super excited that the year 2016 is over, I mean so many people complained about how tough the year was. I agree it was tough but I must confess it was better (not financially) than my 2015, so that's progress I'm thankful for. As those are hopeful, some are just waiting to see what the year brings and others are simply going on with life as always, you know the "last year and this year is just a day apart so it's just another week, just another year, no big deal" group of people. I'm curious, where do you belong?For me, I'm a mix of all three I guess but it is a big deal, seeing every new day IS a big deal I'll daily be grateful for.

Breathe and Be Happy

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Hey guys, how have you all been? I honestly hope good. It's been tough lately for the majority but I'm glad to see that we're all still pushing on. Really, that's all we could ask for.

Anyway, I didn't really plan on a "real" post per say. I came here to just ramble ( like that's not all I do usually), because I've missed you, So Much.

I just realized recently how far the year has gone, seriously this year was FAST! I think I'm happy it was actually. I have had a series of unfortunate incidents happen to me this year and I've got to admit, they shook me. Looking at me, you may never know but honestly they did, then again, I'm a believer in God so I always end up okay, always. These things happen and you start to focus on all the negatives, your smile starts to fade and make occasional appearances. You forget the little things and the big things that you have going on, because we are so spoilt. Yes you know people have been through worse but that's them, this is you and you shouldn't have certain things happening to you, because you are? You! Well, hate to break it to you but you WILL continue to have a fair share of fortunate and unfortunate incidents coming your way - facts of life. Pray all you want, this is truth. Some things just have to happen and many times we come out humbled and with a better perspective generally. Sometimes, we are too consumed in our world that the we forget there are people out there who need us, people we can help without having to do so much. When we go through the fire and survive it, for the wise ones, we open our eyes and our hearts and we are kinder and more loving and more forgiving and tolerating of people. You come out a better You.

"Pray for Me"

Hey everyone! How have you all been? Can you believe it's September already. Wow! Time really does fly, doesn't it? I hope you all have achieved some of your set goals for the year and if you haven't, don't stress it too much. Just do what you can with the time left. I am way behind schedule on my goals and this doesn't even sound like news anymore but I am so glad that things are beginning to pick up again. There are still a lot of things to process and clarify but at least we are making progress and that makes me happy. So to our topic - Pray for Me, follow me...

The Little Things Count

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Hello world! How have you been? I've been away for too long and I won't even bother trying to give any excuse. Lord knows I've missed you and you're always on my mind and today I was determined to come here to tell you that and to share something, anything with you. Earlier at church today, this topic came to mind and I decided to share with my darlings; You.

Simple and Classy! Get The Look

Hi guys! How have you all been? It's been a while this section had an update and I have loads of glamorous designs to share with you but one post at a time, we'll get there. Today, I'll be introducing you to a wonderful fashion designer who can hook you up with really amazing designs at affordable prices you'll absolutely love. First, take your time to drink in this dashing beauty, the dress not me *tongue out*, more pictures below.

My Real Life Make Believe

I posted this on my Instagram page - @sd_tarfa , sometime last year and decided to share the complete piece here. I hope you enjoy it. Forgive my madness before hand, still love you though :D :*.

Happy Valentine's Day Lovers!

 

Hey loves! Happy Val's Day :* . How are you all doing? So today is Val's day and I just thought I should drop some love to my lovers from this side of the world. Valentine's day has always been a big deal in this part of the world. I'm not even going to go into the history of St. Valentine and how this day came about and the kind of love that this day actually signified because clearly, humans have converted this day to what we want. I still remember the crazy anticipation among lovers in secondary school and how it was simply expected to go all out for your crush at the time. I have always thought this gesture sweet albeit many times ridiculous.

USE THE SMART SYSTEM THIS YEAR

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Hey guys! How are you all doing? Is it just me or is this January in particular one hell of a long month??? I mean, it feels like we've been here forever. I shouldn't be complaining though, I had many days to get myself in order. Please bear with me, I'm a little cough syrup drowsy but I will try to be as clear and simple as possible, this cough is one serious gangsta though, sigh.

About two or three weeks ago, I had an anxiety attack at the office. I just froze there feeling like I had wasted all my chances/days. I felt confused and lost and felt I needed an organizer again, I needed a time table to achieve all I had set out for the year or at least make progress. I needed to make progress on everything I had listed out. In my frozen state, I wasn't thinking straight so I had to reach out to a friend. He called me almost immediately and helped me through. He made me realize we were barely in the middle of the month and I was on the right track with my plans and he agreed that I needed a schedule to work with but I was most glad that he said all I had listed out to him were SMART goals and he believed that I could achieve them. That made me glad and I thought to share my process with you, and hopefully we can help one another whichever way possible.