Love and Marriage

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Hey guys, how are we doing? My days have been hot and cold, almost fell ill or maybe did a little but I'm good now. Anyway, it's been a while I just talked and I've been wanting to for a while now, but you know how these things are now, right? I'm here now, though :D. I ended last year marrying a cousin out and started this year marrying a friend out ( it sounds like I'm the one collecting the bride price, right? lol). Yeah, so the whole relationship and marriage topic started flowing around again for some time,  you  know the usual questions from every corner, those with the right to ask and those who have no business asking, "When are we coming for your own oh?", "| So, when are we meeting him now?" and the likes. Well, I think all of that inspired me to talk my talk today, so come with me and flow through my mind.

Parenting - The "Little Things" You Do That Ruin Your Child

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Hi everyone. How is work, love and life treating you, I hope we're happy with at least one of these. I want to talk about parenting and I hope I can stick to "the little things" here - whatever they are. Some of us are parents already, some will be, pretty soon, and some, hope to be one day. The thing is, many people have no idea what it takes to be parents, yes, even some that have 20 kids already. It's not just about giving birth so you could bear the title mummy/daddy, having little ones to send on errands to the nearby store or simply to have people to take care of you when you're old and gray. No, it goes way beyond that. Having children should not be for your selfish reasons alone (yes, alone because let's face it, it should be for our joy too). The society we have today is one way or another as a result of the grooming the people received by the parents. One day, your daughter might be president, your son might be an ambassador, what values will you instill in them? The foundation of everything in life goes a long way in determining the strength and success of that entity. Our children's foundations should be built by us and I tell you it is not an easy task at all, there are influences everywhere but at the end of the day they come back home to you and they look up to you the most. What do you tell them is wrong or right? What do you trash out and tell them never to pick up again? Do you tell them why? Let's look at some things parents do that affect their kids and hopefully, let's start to amend our ways; it's never too late to try.

Does Your Job Define You?

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Hi guys, today I want to ask you two main questions, ok, three actually; 1. How are you darlings? Hope you’re great. 2. Does your job define you? 3. Is it a good or a bad thing if it does?

Are you one of those people who find yourself needing to always mention that you are a doctor, lawyer, teacher, farmer, banker… within two seconds of a conversation? Do you feel it is necessary in validating who you are to the person and or to yourself? Let’s take it in different perspectives; say, you do absolutely love your job; it’s all you've ever dreamed of becoming and can’t think of doing or succeeding in anything else. You are at peace with this job and the only change in your career would be advancement or relocation, not an actual change in job per say. In this case, I can honestly expect that, who you are would definitely be linked with your job, because truthfully, it is part of who you are and not just what you do-even though you should have a life outside your work.  Now, second scene; say you are a “successful” banker/doctor or whatever, you are great at your job and get good pay and nonmaterial incentives as well but you absolutely hate your job for reasons best known to you. Would you still spurt out your job within 2 seconds of a discussion? If you do, would it be because you don’t find anything else interesting about yourself or you think that’s the information the person would like to know or you feel that gives you “points” in the person’s mental judgment book? 

The Marriage Ambition

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Hello people. I didn't plan to talk about marriage today, but, today that has been the topic all around me. I'll give you a background summary of the marriage hits today. First, I read one of my favourite blogs-Tommyslav's Island where a woman's quest for love somehow led her into a troubled marriage, you should visit the site (if you don't already know it), she posts really interesting fictional stories weekly. The second was a real life discussion about a lady who has set up her wedding date with a man she met 5 months ago and the final was in church, we had a "Single and Fulfilled" sermon. 

I know many people have diverse views on marriage; what it is about, why it should be or why not, when and blah blah blah. I'll give my truth about the topic. Marriage is not a joking matter. It is a serious covenant between two people giving themselves to each other and meant to last forever. That being said, it is obvious that a matter like this should not be rushed into. Thinking about it, where are you rushing to? You go deh der tire!( Not tire in a bad way, hopefully). With all the love in the world between two people, they still encounter problems and struggles in their marriage-it happens and it's okay as long as their love and faith in their love can help them overcome the struggles. Now think of going through such struggles with a partner you barely know or someone you were pushed to marry for some silly reason. My dears, it's not a funny thing at all. Don't try it oh!