Jealousy~Proof of Love, Insecurity or Just Greed?

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Hello people! How has your week been so far? I hope great. Let's take a minute to relax and discuss.

You know that uncomfortable nudge you get in your belly when you see your romantic partner laughing a little too much with the opposite sex (well, and for the gays, the same sex)? Let's talk about that, shall we?

Some define the term "Jealousy" as a feeling of fear that one is losing or has lost something or someone of personal value to that person. We all have our interpretations of jealousy; you know it when you see/feel it right? I know I do. Well, sometimes it could be cute and other times, annoying, even scary.

Why do people get jealous? Let's use relationships to swing by easily. Some say it is caused by the fear of losing your position. I think sometimes that's the case but not always or not to the letter at least. Sometimes you know for sure that this person is yours and you can bet your arm that he or she will never leave you or cheat on you for/with this person, yet you find yourself feeling strangely aggressive over the thought of having that girl or that guy talking and laughing with "yours". Why is that?

Many believe that jealousy is a sign of love. They say it shows that you love and cherish this person and want to be the only special person in his/her life. If the level of this "love sign" is moderate, then I consider it cute. You know when your love finds out you're being jealous, they have this sweet sense that makes them feel special and treasured. They assure you that they are wholly yours. It's cute, sweet adorable, on this level that is. If it's too much, it's just plain annoying sha. So if na form sef you deh form, try keep it moderate ehn. 

In another debate, jealousy comes as a result of insecurity. When a person feels less in terms of looks, intelligence, color or whatever, it is very common to find this person feeling insecure and therefore jealous of any "threat" as he or she may perceive a friend or acquaintance. In this case, I think this is a sickness; a psychological disease. No one should feel less than anyone. We were all wonderfully created by God and each have our special talents and callings. If you find yourself feeling not good enough for your partner for whatever reason, you need to work on yourself and change that. Some are self inflicted (some people just like to play the victim), others grow to believe they are worth nothing due to childhood bullying, emotional abuse from family and "friends". I mean how can a mother or father tell a child "you look ugly when you smile", or "you are a dummy and can never amount to anything". Come on! God is so merciful to bless such families with children. 

Another jealousy trigger falls under the control freaks. The possessive ones, who want you to speak, smile and act only when and how they say you should. I think these people treat their partners as "things they own" rather than people they share their lives with. It's funny how they are the ones who get cheated on and dumped all the time. Your excuse may be that you were too trusting in your previous relationships hence the need for the leash but my dears; it's all in your attitude. Let's start taking responsibility for the things that happen to us. I'm not saying it was your fault this girl or this guy dumped you. I'm just saying; always do your self-check to see if you're blameless too, especially when it happens so often. Most times, we seldom are but if you are, don't let it change the good in you. I think it is too stressful checking if you're being cheated on every time! If you don't have that peace in your relationship, what's the point?

So, back to the main question; is your jealousy really proof of love, insecurity or just greed? Drop your views in the comment box, no shyness, no judgments please.