The Motivation to Be More

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Hello world. What's happening at your ends?

Today, let's talk about the motivation to be more. I shall attempt to view this from both the man and woman's stand point. Wish me luck, but most of all, teach me more in the comments box :*.

Ladies first right? Ok, first, let me clarify what I mean by "Be More". For many who have the privilege to dream of a future career from a young age, (I say "the privilege to dream" because some are not exposed enough to know there's more out there-not really an excuse though) there's usually this sense of direction or perception as to how their lives should go. Sometimes, luckily, the dream you choose as a kid is what you end up being and you feel fulfilled, yaay! for you, other times life happens and you get side kicked from every corner and lose course. In some cases, you don't lose course per say, you simply get delayed due to circumstances somewhat beyond your control. So, say, your dream was to be a pilot and so far all you have is an engineering degree (not aeronautics) and you need to go to aviation school which you can't really pay for at the moment, what do you do? Quit on your dream and continue your 8-5 job or save up and go for your aviation school (hoping time is still on your side, that is)?

Another angle could be seen as you getting a 9-5 job and loving it. Question is, do you love it so much that you don't want to leave that spot, or do you love it just enough to make you want to be more, get a promotion, seek a managerial position or even become a partner?

Now, back to the ladies. We have a number of career driven ladies in the society today. That's a good thing, as they can be seen as role models to young ladies out there aspiring to be great in the career world. However, the percentage of ladies out there at top spots is still relatively on the low. Sadly, ladies still have the second option view in the society today and most homes, who can't afford education for all their kids, will send their male kids first, with the excuse that the woman will marry and leave them. That's topic for another day. Marriage is another showstopper for ladies. They meet this special someone and he promises heaven and earth. He's loaded with cash so they say to themselves that money was the point of that dream after all so if there's money and I'm in love, why not? There goes that dream of being Oprah. Others go into marriage believing they will pursue the dream but then the kids come and it's impossible to manage the husband, the kids, the home, the job-if any, and still pursue that great passion you once had. So what moves this special group of women who have been able to manage all of these somehow and still follow their passion? People say if it is truly your passion, you will definitely make it happen. Is that so?

Not being sexist, but I think the young men have it easier as regards achieving their dreams. Let's delve into their world a little bit. A responsible man's drive to make it big can hardly be quenched. Notice the emphasis on "responsible", cause some men can just tire me. When the man thinks of how he wants to be seen by the world as a MAN, you know how men can feel themselves, when they think of that baby girl that they want to wife and will need to take care of, the children that will follow, their parents at home they will need to support, nobody go tell them na, body go arrange. My point is, there are societal expectations that kind of set a man on track. They are usually the ones the parents strive hard to send to school. They are the ones who sort of choose when they will marry, as most times, they are the ones that propose. When I ask around my male friends, the biggest motivation to achieve big is mostly women, well the wife~hmm, women, we strong oh! Women can be expensive sha and children even more. You hear men saying, they don't want their children to lack the things they lacked and talks like that. With this consciousness, men strive hard to make sure they can take care of their family properly. 

Whatever path you choose as a man or woman, I hope you get the happiness and satisfaction that comes with doing what you love. That you choose to be a career woman over a family woman should bring you joy, that you choose to raise those adorable kids over spending the whole day in a cubicle should be a fulfilling experience. For the men, please just make sure you can take care of your family ehn, it's the least you could do. That sense of fulfillment that can only be gotten when you are doing what you were brought here to do; that's my wish and prayer for you. 

Now, let's talk about you. What motivates you to do more and be more? Maybe we could learn to push ourselves even more. I know I need that.